Kind of a random hill to die on rn but "You'd eat this thing you hate if you got hungry enough" does not set a reasonable expectation of what "hungry enough" means for people with food problems.

Like, are we talking "stomach grumbling" hungry enough, or "can't stand up" hungry enough? Cause personally, I can make myself eat a bit of a pork chop if I'm barfy and shaking and can't see straight anymore, but if it's down to "black out for three days and wake up angry and confused" or "willingly swallow prosciutto", I'm having sleep for dinner. And I know this from experience.

People without food problems don't seem to understand this and it drives me insane. "Hungry enough" is for shit like chewing drywall because the alternative is death or cannibalism.

If I say I can't eat something, It means I can't eat it. It Is Not Edible To Me. It's not even appetizing. It literally does not register as food. You might as well hand me a rubber duck.

And it's frustrating!! Trust me, I wish I wasn't like this, too!! This isn't a choice!! I know it can be rude!! It's embarassing!! It's complicated and annoying and irrational!! That doesn't fix the problem!!

I just wish people didn't treat this sort of thing as "being picky" or lacking willpower or basic manners or something. I can't make myself eat certain foods the way you probably couldn't cut your own fingers off. Does that make sense? It's not just food. Fuck

ALT

Not to put you on blast here darlin, but if pinto beans and black beans were exactly the same then why would it matter to you if you switched them? It'd be the same experience, right? Even if you were allergic or had a sensitivity or a nutritional issue?

Also, your daughter in law is a grown adult who is perfectly capable of figuring out for herself what can and cannot go into her body, and if it wasn't important to her, then she wouldn't have told you. If it didn't matter, if it wasn't worth communicating for some reason, she probably would have kept it to herself. She decided instead to communicate with you so that you could meet somewhere in the middle, because she trusted that you would be courteous about it and she knew it would come up in the future- meaning she hopes or expects to continue socializing with you in the future.

Like, I completely understand that not knowing *why* is frustrating, but sometimes people have problems and it's not my job or my business to solve them

Thank you for saying this OP.

Lots of people, my family included, don't get it. And like, I was a massively adventurous eater before I developed symptoms that are likely MCAS, so I can understand mild confusion ("you like escargot, calamari, and oysters, but could never in a million years eat clams?" like yeah it's weird but (icarly meme) I do not control the food sensitivities).

But like... confusion is different than refusing to believe me. *I* get confused about my food issues sometimes. But to actively say "oh you're just a picky little princess" and force the kid that you bragged as a toddler "would eat all their veggies including spinach all the other parents?

Like my parents would always be like, about the like 3 things I ever had issues with "oh you'd eat it if you were starving" and maybe some of the milder ones I could but the worst ones would cause me to gag until I threw up and then I'd end up starving AND dangerously dehydrated! Like... GAH.

(Honestly this ties into a post I've been thinking about making, how so many abled people cannot fathom the idea of bodies being incapable of doing stuff short of being literally paralyzed, and even then they'll usually think people can do a modified variant. Whether it's working or food they go 'well I can do it so everyone can' and like... *shoves dictionary definition of disability at them*)

(An additional note: OP and others may not consider this specific issue a disability, so I'm using that word to describe my own experiences only.)

Yeah, I have ARFID (avoidant restrictive food intake disorder, common amongst autistics & other people w sensory issues) and was. Badly traumatized as a child because I was a ""picky eater"" who was forced to eat things I found disgusting. I do not trust anyone who talks about ""picky eaters"" like the very act of having specific food needs is some grievous insult against the foundation of society. My relationship with food is still fucked up because of this, because instead of acceptance and accomadation I was forced to sit at the dinner table, crying and embarrassed, for hours as I forced myself to eat small bites of things that caused me physical distress in order to earn the right to leave.

And for me, I can generally tell when something will trigger my sensory issues. Yet every time I was told "you have to try something once before you know!!!" despite the fact I was always right, and then sometimes I would be told "WELLL you actually need to try something ten times before you can say you don't like it!!!" which just feels like my family was mad I didn't like the bullshit food they forced me to eat after I said I wouldn't like it.

The way some people talk about us is just so fucked up. Person in the screenshot is a very very tame version, but some people get so personally, aggressively enraged by the idea of someone being "picky" about food. As if it's something we do to personally fuck with you, and not something that leaves you alienated from so much of society. Because it's not fun for you to go out to eat, it's not fun for you to eat at parties or events, meals with family and friends is stressful, you never know if you'll have access to a safefood in public, and even if you do you are hyperaware that you are eating a "kids meal" or a "snack" while everyone else happily eats the grown-up food that disgusts you. I've had multiple times where I almost start crying at a dinner with family because I order something, it's not good for my ARFID, and I get so viscerally embarrassed and ashamed that I can't be normal.

& that's not even getting into the health affects this has had on me– yet people act like it's a quirky life choice. I def agree w stellalunasys; abled people (ableism as a capitalist system in general) don't understand the idea that disabled people NEED to listen to our bodies to survive. It's not just a matter of something literally stopping you. An abled person COULD stick their hand into an open flame, they literally have that ability, and yet for some reason they don't! Almost like they know it would seriously hurt their body!

same energy as that buffy episode where the big bad ‘can’t be hurt by any weapon forged’ and she’s like ‘it’s been a 500 years are you sure’ and annihilates it with a fuckin M136 rocket launcher

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don’t forget during the WGA strike that animation is not covered under the WGA deals and as a result animation has gotten the shortest possible end of the stick in under-staffing, under-paying, and generally turning the field into gig employment.

please sign the petition here for Disney to recognize animation production workers as a union and reblog this post!

*guy who hasn't eaten lunch voice* been really into the idea of picking a direction and running as fast as I can in a straight line until I collapse and die

some locked tomb WIPs! I'm having a bit of a weird art block where sketches are fine but rendering isn't (??) so I'll come back and finish these one day

i have this disease called i will open your message and get distracted and forget to reply and then the notification will be gone so i will not have replied for ages and you will think i am ignoring you but. i am not. it’s incurable

when you see your little kitty walking toward you at a leisurely pace and say "hi baby!" bc you're excited to see her and she starts trotting a little bit faster 'cause she's excited to see you too. that's what life is all about i think

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Compare paychecks with you co-workers. It is the best way to get equality.

In the USA it is illegal for them to even ASK you not to talk about your wages